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From Fear to Leadership: A Personal Journey
This episode explores the theme of overcoming self-doubt and fear to find satisfaction in life through the lens of personal experiences and relationships. We discuss the essential nature of inner peace, the impact of expectations from others, and the transformative power of certain books.
• Definition of life satisfaction as inner peace
• The challenging nature of fear in leadership
• The weight of expectations from loved ones
• Importance of supportive personal relationships
• Book recommendations for navigating life challenges
• The value of advocating for self and setting boundaries
5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Take a breath, let's dive in. Today, my goal is to share something that I believe a lot of people can relate to, which is I have to learn to get out of my own head. My problem, as with many others, is that we like to stay in our comfort zone. We like to play it safe. We can't and don't take risk unless it's calculated, when sometimes we should simply just act. The most difficult hurdle we face is always ourselves. We're our own worst enemy. We're our own worst critic when there are moments where we lie to ourselves.
Speaker 1:There's intelligent people out there, all around us, that have no confidence and they tell themselves that they're unwise. Now there's a person out there that's a shining beacon of hope to others. They inspire others, they put a smile on so many people's faces, and yet they feel inadequate. Our feelings are merely interpretations of our environment, a situation or experience. Feelings aren't facts, because they're always subject to change when given a new perspective. So challenge yourself to be more than what you are, so you can be as great as you should be.
Speaker 1:And, that being said, this being our second year of podcasting, I am going to use this platform to challenge myself, to get out of my comfort zone. My problem is that I don't like the spotlight. I just want to create and enjoy my creations, whether it's art, writing, music, fashion. I love creating. I just don't like attention, because I've always thought that attention equals distraction. I told myself that by putting myself out there I would be how should I say this? I would be distracted, I would be pulled away from the things that I wanted to do, when the truth of the matter is that I've been scared to interact with you, the audience, because I am such an introvert. I play the part of a social butterfly, but I'm a shy guy at my core, and so, with this episode, I'm going to come out of my comfort zone and actually answer a few questions that I've received through various platforms Facebook, instagram and LinkedIn and I'm going to read about 10 of those and, just to be transparent, I only selected the 10 that appealed to me, the ones that I liked, and two of the questions are from family members, so I would like to be transparent and honest with that.
Speaker 1:So, without further ado, let's just dive in. These questions have been altered just for the reading purposes, and the first question is what does it mean to be satisfied in life? And my answer to that question is when you have peace, then you're satisfied in life. Until you have inner peace and confidence in all things, you'll never be satisfied in life. There's no such thing as a truly perfect situation. But if you have peace in all things and peace in your life, then there's less stress and you have the ability to just flow and it means that you're moving forward. And if you're moving forward and you have peace, then you're satisfied. There's nothing that trumps peace. There's nothing that matters more than peace, because if you have peace, then there's no turbulence. That means that you're in a good mental state of being and that is priceless. I think peace is the ultimate reward for the life that you live. It's not the money or the materialistic things, it's peace. Peace is the ultimate goal and peace is true satisfaction of life.
Speaker 1:Question number two do you fear things, even when you know the outcome? I mean yes, every single day. I fear so many every single day. I fear so many things every single day. There's lots of times where, even though I know things are going to me to have the answers, other people are looking to me for guidance and I don't want to fail, because the failure may reflect on me negatively, because my failures are not my own. I think when you're in a position of leadership, you realize that you have a duty to serve and, as such, I have to think about failure, because my failure has that will benefit all those around me. And so it's difficult at times to be confident, as I want to be, only because I'm in a position of leadership. I think that if I was not in a position of leadership, then the decisions that I would make I would not feel any fear. I believe that before I was in a position of leadership, I was daring to be bold simply because I was not beholden upon anyone else. I could do as I please, and do it knowing that it would work out. And now, even though I know things are going to work out and I have all the experience in the world, I still doubt myself because of the fact that I'm in a position of leadership and other people are depending on me to make the right decisions.
Speaker 1:What is my greatest fear? Hmm, what is my greatest fear? My greatest fear is letting down all the people who matter to me, all the people who have sacrificed so much for me to be where I am is my greatest fear the people who invested time in me. To know that I let them down would break my own heart. You know, I never want to disappoint, whether it's my mentors or my family members that truly have poured into me to teach me things, to just help me develop as a human being, to teach me things to just help me develop as a human being.
Speaker 1:I have such a high regard for all of those people and such a reverence that I cannot stand the thought of ever failing them, because failing them would mean that I failed at life and it would mean that their sacrifice wasn't worth it. It would also mean that they chose poorly to invest in someone that did not meet their expectations. There's very few people that I feel this way about, but the fact that there are people who decided that I was a worthy bet means that I have a worthy bet, means that I have to prove them right, and that's the cross that I bear, or the burden that I carry is that I don't want to let down any of those people, because I know what they did to get me to where I am today and because I know what they did to get me to where I am today, and because I know their sacrifice, I have to succeed. I have to do what's right, because without them there is no me, and I think that's what keeps me motivated as well.
Speaker 1:It is my greatest fear, but also my greatest motivation, because so many people have taught me things, whether you know, I'm looking at just finances, or I'm looking at just how to be a good human being, or how to communicate effectively, or how to navigate difficult situations. They're people who you know that in moments where I needed them or I just needed a good human being around, they were there. For example, when I was in college and I was working and interning and I felt like there was never enough time in the world, there was a lady at the cafe that every time she saw me, she just made a coffee and she said something nice that kept me going, something nice that kept me going. You know that was fuel, you know, for for my, for my brain, not just the coffee or caffeine, but just the act of kindness that someone could see beyond their own situation, and they helped me. And maybe to other people it was just coffee, but to me it was more than that, and so I am grateful for those things and I don't take those acts of kindness for granted. Or the people who you know maybe they trained me and they took the time to train me just so that I could just be better. Or my mechanic my mechanic that would never charge me a dime to ever work on my car. Or, you know, my uncle that would never charge me to help me with my finances. You know, he would say, one day you'll be one of my clients, but that never happened because he retired.
Speaker 1:All these people have done so much for me that I was able to always navigate life's difficult hurdles and challenges. So I can't let any of those people down because they wanted me to succeed. I think that one of the greatest gifts that I was given in my personal life is that I was always told that I could accomplish anything that I wanted to, and I was always told I could be whatever I wanted to be. So my inner circle in life, my core people, have never doubted me and have only pushed me forward to be the best human being that I could be, and I carry that with me every day through life. The only time I ever experienced people throwing shade or people being negative was the world, but I had. I went into the world having the confidence that I could do anything, I could be anything, because my home base was my battery of confidence. So all the people that were in my inner circle gave me the confidence to know that I could do anything and I could be anything, and so it would be a slap in the face if I didn't accomplish or live up to their expectations. I know all other people will have different feelings on that issue, but that's my biggest fear. That would break my heart to know that I did not live up to their expectations.
Speaker 1:And so let's look at another one. What book would you recommend people to read? I would recommend two books. The first one is Getting to yes, so it's a book on negotiating, and you can use it in any situation, because you realize that anything that deals with another human being is kind of negotiation and communication. That book has allowed me to really take the time to think about the words that I'm using and to properly navigate situations in which my ego will clash with another human being's ego, and so I make a situation as much as I can when it's in my power, more so the situation than about me, the situation than about me, and that book has allowed me to just better create equitable situations for both parties when dealing with you know each other and just overall how to be a better person. I think a good negotiator can create a situation where both parties, or all parties, can stand to benefit. And the second book is the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. I love that book because the world will always make you feel less than the world will and in certain situations others will put doubt in your mind, and I think that book kind of allowed me to just weed out the people who don't matter in my life and to embrace the people who do matter, and so I definitely recommend people reading that book or or listening to it as an audio book. I prefer the audio book, um, because that's definitely been the cornerstone of of my adult life. I think since reading it I've adopted a lot of the philosophies in that book and it's and it's helped me navigate so many situations and also just learning to let people go and how to identify good people who should be in your life, and how to be an advocate for yourselves and how to speak up.
Speaker 1:I think sometimes we're not our best advocate.
Speaker 1:We advocate for other people, but we don't know how to speak up.
Speaker 1:I think sometimes we're not our best advocate.
Speaker 1:We advocate for other people, but we don't know how to advocate for ourselves. We don't know how to create a positive light on ourselves, and also, sometimes we need to just tell people to just fuck off, in not so many words, but sometimes that's the only way to say it. Not everyone's meant to be in your life and not everyone's meant to be your friend, and not everyone has your best interests. And that's just life. And sometimes we're so afraid of letting people go that we let them be the dead weight or we let them be the person that that drains, you know, our, our social batteries, or or just weigh on us emotionally. Some people just suck the life and energy out of you, and it takes guts to speak your truth, and I think sometimes it's hard to do so when you don't know what to say or have the tools and resources to be able to just cut people off, and so I think that that book is a great resource. For that reason, if you enjoyed today's content, please like and subscribe for more.